What happens when you can’t control the Stressor? This is where completing the cycle and managing the stress that I talked about last month is so important- build in completing the cycle into your plan. Controlling what you can makes the rest of the journey more bearable. Some things such as making sure everyone gets fed, and getting where they need to go each day have pragmatic steps to help manage the controllable factors, such as keeping calendars and writing lists.
Planful problem solving is what you think it is: analyzing the problem, making a plan based on that analysis, and executing the plan.
When a lot of effort fails to produce a satisfying amount of progress we can change what kind of effort we’re putting in. What do I do when I can control the stressor? So now that we know how the Monitor works, we can affect our brain in both controllable and uncontrollable stressors. Counselors are seeing this reaction to burnout a lot right now with the pandemic. You’re in that helpless state where your brain abandons hope, all you want is to go home and curl up on the couch, maybe you even cry, because you can only sit and wait. To add insult to injury if you sit there long enough, your Monitor switches its assessment of the goal of getting to the grocery store to “unattainable” and emotionally you get pushed into a pit of despair. High investment, little progress= Ragey Monitor. Say then you get stopped by police and ambulance for an accident ahead, you might get to fuming and swearing off this grocery store. If you’re 10 minutes in and you’re only halfway there you can move into “pissed off” territory. Less effort, quicker progress= happy, satisfied, Monitor.īut say you do get stuck in traffic or you hit every red light, you get frustrated and annoyed. For example trying to get to the market takes 10 minutes, and if you don’t hit any traffic or a ton of red lights, you’re moving quickly and making progress quicker than expected by your Monitor. progress and has big ideas about what that ratio should be. It’s running the numbers on your ratio of effort vs. How much effort your putting into that goal
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